> Three-way Relationship Intrigues Oblivious Straightsġ. Several questions: 1) What do gay people call such a union? 2) Does the gay community think it’s odd? Unremarkable? Sensible? 3) How does a union like that form? A couple adds a third? 4) Do these relationships last? Lots of pros and cons, just curious how it plays out. I wish we all lived in the same city, as it’s hard to meet cool people who aren’t exactly like you when you’re married with kids. I lacked the cojones to ask directly, but they had an extensive travel history together and lived together, everything was “we” this or that, and there were various PDA pairings during the day. We were grouped with three men who were obviously in a committed three-person relationship. I recently spent a lovely day snorkelling with my wife in Mexico. If our gayness can’t be defined solely by dick, WSOWS, then surely your straightness can’t be undone entirely by dick. There are gay men out there who date and fuck and shack up with trans men-men with pussies-so not all gay men are after dick. Gay men are into dick, of course, but what we’re really into is dudes. Wanting to be with a woman who has a dick is an almost exclusively straight-male kink/obsession/wild side. If nothing I’ve said has made you feel better, WSOWS, maybe this will: gay men don’t hire trans women sex workers. Because you’re not gay, WSOWS, and one ride on a trans escort’s dick can’t change that. You did the gayest thing a guy can do-you let someone put a dick in your ass-but that didn’t make you gay. I did the straightest thing a guy can do-I put my dick in a vag-and it didn’t make me straight. Maybe this will help: like a lot of gay men, I had sex with a woman before I came out. Be a man about this-be a straight man about this-and walk it off, as the football coaches say. So you didn’t emerge from this encounter with anything more devastating than a touch of gay panic.
So maybe you took a longer walk on the wild side than you might have if you’d gone on that walk sober, WSOWS, but, thankfully, your sex worker was conscientious and responsible and used condoms. You made an exception for this woman’s dick because her dick is exceptional: it’s attached to a woman. If the woman’s finger was fine-to say nothing of the woman’s tongue-why freak out about the woman’s dick? Remember: you don’t sleep with men you’re not attracted to men. Look at it this way: the difference between having a woman’s finger in your ass and having a woman’s dick in your ass is a matter of degree. Stop acting so cray, as the kids say, and repeat after me: one dick in the ass does not a gay man make. You’re being a huge drama queen about the whole thing. Yes, yes: you did the gayest thing a guy can do-you allowed someone to put a dick in your man butt-but now you’re doing the second-gayest thing a guy can do. Can a single act like this make me gay? Please help. What I regret is her sticking her thing in my butt. I’ve been tested since the encounter to make sure I didn’t catch anything. I don’t regret being with a trans woman because I wanted to experiment. (I would never kill myself-I wouldn’t do that to my family and friends.) I still want to date women and have sex with women. I feel really depressed about this traumatic situation. I just can’t get past the fact that I did the gayest thing a guy can do.
She was very safe and used condoms for everything. But the next day, I started to feel really bad. At the time, I was too fucked up to care. But somewhere during this encounter, I became the receiving partner during anal sex. I’ve been on the receiving end of anal play before from girls, so nothing new. She licked my butt, gave me head, and fingered me. She was totally womanly, nothing manly about her, except for, you know. One night, after drinking with a friend and smoking some hash, I arranged a date with a trans sex worker. However, in the last year, here and there, I’ve jerked off to transsexual porn. I love women, I’ve always loved women, I’ve always loved having sex with women.